How do you get the truth out of something emotionally difficult

2021.11.27 23:33 ThrowRA-Trying How do you get the truth out of something emotionally difficult

I (m36) have been married to my wife (f32) for 8 years. My wife reconnected with John (m34) who lives out of town and they chat on social media. They were friends in their 20's. My wife liked John but he did not like her. John and my wife would hook up once in a while but it became clear that he was stringing her along to have sex with her. When my wife painfully realized, she wanted to have nothing to do with him and cut all communication with him (blocked him on social media). After that John has tried to connect with her through out the years, but she never responded. After we got married, my wife lost contact with all of her friends. My wife was sexually molested when she was a teen and John knows about it. My wife has been getting therapy. When my wife and I were dating we had a lot of desire for each other, but the desire faded after we got married. We now have sex about once a month. I usually initiate things when it does happen and she doesn't seem to be into it. About 2 years ago she asked me if it was ok to reached out to John. She told me that it was to prove to herself that she is not afraid of him and that she has moved on. I told her that I trust her but and that I am ok with her talking to him but don't know if it would bother me in the future. We agreed that she would check with me every so often to see where I am at and she reached out to him. They have been chatting about every other week since then. He also posts on her page about once a week. He knows my wife is married and she told him that she was completely honest with me about him. My wife and I have been working to improve our sex life. She asked me to work on somethings. I took notes and improved on those areas. Our sex life didn't get better. We talked about it again and decided we need to make our romantic relationship more of a priority. It bothers me that sometimes we go the entire week without connecting but she seems to be able to connect with John more consistently than she does with me. I asked her why she continue talking to him. She told me that it's nice to reconnect with a friend from her past and that he is not all bad. She feels like she can't relate to a lot of her old friends but John feels familiar. She knows what to expect since he hasn't changed much. My wife doesn't really want to start over making new friends and feels like with John she has someone to talk to. My wife went through a difficult emotional time and she made mention of it on social media. I made my self available to her and was there for her. She told me she wanted to keep her mind off of it so we didn't talk about it. That night my wife couldn't sleep, went on social media and John was there. A lot of the time they connect is late at night. John asked if he could call and they talked for 2 hours. The next day she told me about it. It bothered me that I have been trying but she didn't open up to me and she did open up with him. She apologized and has been making more of an effort to connect with me since. I have been trying less and less after that. I am more and more distant from her. She has tried to connect with me but I haven't been able to most of the time. I have been trying to make more of an effort but it has been difficult to do more than bare minimum. She has offered for me to go through their messages in the past but I never took her up on it. Today while she was not looking I did. I found that before our last conversation about John he sent her 1 inappropriate pic of himself and then another one about the type of woman he is looking for (John is currently single). I really didn't see anything else, but too be honest it was difficult to go through the messages after that. I know my wife will tell me she wants nothing to do with him and feels no attraction to him but I need to know the truth. How do I go about this so she can admit the truth to her self and me. I feel like if we don't know the truth we won't fix the issue. If this keeps on happening I don't know if I'll have what it takes to keep on working on our issues. TLDR my wife is talking to an old boyfriend online and I don't know if there is something more than friendship. How do I talk to her so we find out the truth (whatever the truth is).
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